It’s in the news…all around us. People are breaking up. Whether it’s celebrities like Joe Jonas & Ashley Greene or Justin Timberlake & Jessica Biel…break ups can be devastating. Breaking up is usually not easy because you have both invested your time, energy and many times your heart into relational real estate. It is a challenge many are going through. ”What do I do now?” Once one part of a team … and now flying solo.
One of the worst things people do is try to fill the gap too quickly. Like going to a party and sitting next to a guest all night. Maybe you had fun, but you gave none of the other people at the party any attention. During my travels, I’ve realized more and more that the world is very big. It offers many opportunities – you may not even know existed out there.
There are three things you should do after a break-up:
It is important to understand why a relationship does not work. Give yourself some time to reflect on whether there is anything you can do differently – that could lead to a more stable relationship next time.
2nd Work on yourself.
Many times we are so busy living life from our partner’s perspective that we lose our own way in life. Many good things have been achieved after a break up because it was beneficial to take care of yourself.
3rd Spend time on others.
Sometimes you can be so focused and committed to your relationship that your friendship circle gets smaller and smaller. What used to be a large collection of acquaintances can be reduced to just a few. You may sit there and think about what to do over the weekend, but instead of getting down maybe it’s time to spend time on someone else. Think about all the great people who are “alone” – not just on the weekends, but throughout the week. Now that you’re single, you might have some extra time to stretch out a hand to others and brighten their day.
“Some people are with you for a reason, some people are with you for a season, and some people are with you for a lifetime.”
By the way, focusing on others and expanding your circle is not just for single people. It is what we are made to do. Whether you are in a relationship that works, single or somewhere in between, you are the one in control of the decisions you make in life.