One day I was having lunch with the mother of Brad Pitt, who’s talent has brought us such great films as, Fight Club, Ocean’s 11, and The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. She told me about the early days when he wanted to be an architect, or in someway help change people’s lives. As he got older he realized he wanted to act, so he drove to Hollywood and gave it all he had. What he had was obviously enough. According to his mom, the early stages were not easy at all. Trying to find jobs, and often getting rejected she said one thing that was true of him is that he always took responsibility of following his dreams.
It seems that over the years I continue to have great conversations with parents of celebrities. Whether sitting for lunch with Charlize Theron and her mother, or talking after one of my speaking events with the mother of MC Hammer… you know… “you can’t touch this”. I have found that if you ask the right questions, you can learn a lot about people who went after their finest life. You can learn about their drive, motivation, and reasons for not giving up.
In the conversation with Brad Pitt’s mother, I learned once again that all of us get tempted to just settle with being mediocre, regular, and just common. The temptation is always there no matter who, or where you are. When he first went to Hollywood more doors closed than opened. He could have just settled with the fact that he didn’t make it, or been okay with just a few TV roles, but then we would have never seen him as “Benjamin Button”.
You see it’s important to “do you”. Another way of saying it is, you’ve been born an original– so don’t die a copy. You have to take responsibility of your life and go for it.
All of us have the sight, the right, and the fight in front of us. The sight or view of a better life, we can imagine it, envision it, and believe it. We have the right for that life. We can make the correct choices, and get better results because it is our right as people to live our finest life. But in order for the sight, and the right to bring success– in most cases, there is a fight. You have to get through obstacles, and work through difficulties.
I have found that in my own life, and I am certain that you have found it in yours… that most great things do not come easy.
We are now in the second part of this year, and some of you need to have a better second half than the first half. And like Brad Pitt had to do, you’re going to have to do a little bit of fighting to get through some obstacles. But before you start all that, I want to ask you two questions: #1- What decisions have brought you to where you are today? #2- What different decisions can you make to create a different outcome?
What I’m saying to you is that today’s decisions will bring tomorrow’s realities. If you don’t like where you are right now, let’s make different choices and have a greater outcome.
Brad Pitt’s mother made sense that fine afternoon, she even built my faith. Even if you’re from Missouri you can have dreams of Hollywood, work through your difficulties, and see your dreams come true. Yes… it’s true, we can live our finest life.
“I believe you make your day. You make your life.” –Brad Pitt