There’s a huge difference between narcissism and self-confidence. Narcissism is a psychological condition characterized by self-preoccupation, lack of empathy, and unconscious deficits in self-esteem. Self-confidence is defined as freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities.
How you handle disappointments and mistakes/failures will depend on your level of self-esteem. If you feel you are capable of assessing your own abilities and improvements, then you will be empowered to “bounce back” from your “setbacks”.
Understanding and acknowledging your unique God-given purpose in life will not only give you direction, but will give you a whole and pure self-confidence. It’s empowering. Self-confidence comes from the ability to keep trying, keep learning and keep caring despite your circumstances.
“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.” Malcolm S. Forbes
In the Bible, we read about a young boy named Joseph. He was the eleventh of twelfth sons born of Jacob and Rachel. When he was seventeen, he had a two dreams that would set the course for an adventurous and ultimately powerful destiny. Throughout his journey, he was sold into slavery, accused of trying to seduce his master’s wife, and left in prison. His belief in what God showed him and his self-confidence, firmly grounded in God led him to his highly coveted position of Vizier, placed in charge over “all the land of Egypt” by the Pharoah. He later helped, not only the entire land of Egypt to sustain itself throughout a famine, but was able to sustain his family and later open doors for his people.
Our dreams, our purpose, our destiny is not just for us to live a better life. It is set in place for us to make life better for those around us as well. It is interesting that when Jesus is asked what the most important commandment is, he states that we must love God and love our neighbors as ourself. Understanding that loving God, loving others and loving ourself are all extremely important and work together in unison. You can’t love God without loving yourself. You can’t love others without loving yourself. Healthy self-confidence is utterly integral to the success of not only seeing your dreams come true, but to finding fulfillment and strength throughout your spiritual journey.
CHALLENGE: Whether you take a formal Emotional Intelligence test or simply take some time to reflect on your strengths, it is important that we are honest about who we are and how we interact with our world. Write down 10 things you are amazing at. Think about when you noticed you were great at these things. Focus on what you’re good at and search for ways to use those talents to make life better for those around you.
Dress the part, walk a little faster, sit up straight, be thankful, compliment others and speak up.